Monday, November 28, 2011
Often times, especially this time of year, our loved ones fall out or get upset with each other for silly reasons. We try to remain non bias, but it's really hard to see the people you love most in the world go at it. It puts a damper of the holiday spirit. Sometimes you don't even have the energy to deal with it. What is truly the right thing to do? Is there really a right or wrong way of handling such situation?
Being a person who doesn't like conflict, I try to see both points of view, then come up with a way that all parties involved are satisfied. Wouldn't it be nice to have a can of "spray all troubles away"? I know, wishful thinking right, but it would make life much easier. Life should always be about love and respect, but there is just something about this time of year that knocks those two important things out into the cold winter weather, blowing only despair and hatred through the frigid air. True we all have problems and may even get into spats with the people we love, but it shouldn't be to the point when we stop speaking or loving each other.
Family is important, a true gift from God. He gave us people to look out for us, be there for us, care and protect, provide and most importantly LOVE! What better gift?! Have you ever thought about the fact that we didn't get a chance to choose our parents or siblings? We get to pick everything else except family. We were all placed in a circle called "family" for a special reason. It's up to us to learn and develop the ground rules, what works for the people in our circle. If you have something you have to say to one person, just go directly to that person. Don't tell such and such because the message intended will be something totally different when it reached the person. Don't be so defensive or take offense to something so easily. Don't take things personally, especially dealing with family. If we cannot go to our family members in love, then who can we go to?
Well, I have learned that our best friends will be there no matter what and for that I am grateful. Having those kind of special friends are just God's way of saying "you are never alone. I will always here". So I guess we should cherish each relationship regardless of being family or not. But we are all connected anyway, created in the image of God.
Just love the family you were blessed with. Treat them all the same, no picks and chooses. Tell them the truth in love. Don't take sides. Don't get in the middle of someone else's conflict. Remember, love God first, then yourself and your love for others will be much greater. There is somebody bigger than you and me.
Until next time, Be inspired, Be encouraged, Be you!
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Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Love is indescribable! It’s like magic in the air, radiating a poison so sweet that you want to drink from its cup and die a slow death. The smile placed upon your face is infectious, contagious, no one can ignore it. Love leaves you breathless. It causes you to do things you normally wouldn’t do. Put up with things you usually walk away from. It becomes the essence of our being, strangling the unspeakable joy of your existence, causing you to shine brighter than the sun. You are just…
The wind blows, a gentle rain pours, yet you stand still revving in the drops kissing your face, washing your body with pure satisfaction. You can’t remember even getting wet realizing that the rain is only tears, tears streaming down your cheeks resting in the corners of your smile, tears of bliss. You shiver from warmth and not cold, becoming sick from love’s kiss.
Will this feeling last forever? Is it only you or do the one you love and desire think of you and feel the movement of their heart beating faster, senses elevating, pleasure striking their body like lightening? Can they close their eyes and see you? Listen in silence and hear what you are thinking? A new found telepathy shared between just you two. Or do you awake from this dream, realize that it was only a dream, close your eyes and live in happiness until your eyes open again? Only to awake and find that nothing has changed. A nightmare of longing continues, casting a dark cloud over the beauty of your thought process. Your imagination tainted…disturbed…interrupted. Then and only then you ask yourself the question “What is love”? Is it truly better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? If this is the way love goes, I’ll pass!
Well I think that love can go both ways. It all determines which course of action you take along your personal journey to the unknown. Nothing in life comes easy and if it does, be certain that it will leave too quick. Work at it! Fight for it! Give it your all! Live in the moment! Don’t let all the “should a, would a, could a’s” to cloud your judgment. There is no greater gift than to love, experience it for yourself to the fullest potential. You never know where it will lead. Take a chance, make the choice and claim victory while you ride on the wave called “love”.
Thanks for listening to yet another random thought for this month Passionate Souls. Next month I will be writing hot and spicy stories for the TWELVE DAYS OF CHRISTMAS, so prepare your minds. I am not discreet in my storytelling and my imagination is very vivid, naughty and nice! First up, "Santa's HO HO HO!!!"
"He licked her passionately in places she covered with lace and silk, creaming her thighs with juices flowing hotter than candle wax. She moaned from the pleasure she felt soaring from her head to her toes. Arching her back, she gave him more of her delicious cranberry sauce."
Just a little something to keep you interested and excited to know what happens next. So stay tuned. It's about to get real juicy! Until next time Be inspired! Be encouraged! Be You!
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Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Now, please correct me if I'm wrong, but if someone tells you "fuck my life" and you are a part of their life, doesn't that also mean "fuck you"? I was a bit confused, but like I said, I consider myself to be a smart person, who can read between the lines. If I told them to "Kick Rocks" would I be wrong? As I posted on yesterday, be careful with the words you choose. I am left with a million questions but yet, I don't give a damn. How is that possible? I need answers on this one my friends.
Does it have something to do with Passion or the lack thereof? Possibly! When you just don't have that aspect in the relationship, along with several others, what happens next? Without communication and not through a damn text message or email, nothing good will follow. Been there and done that. But my spirit isn't broken. I am a stronger, wiser and better person from this experience now. I won't allow anything or anyone to deter me from where I'm headed. Simply NGH or should I say "not gonna happen". LOL
See, I still have my sense of humor. Bitterness isn't welcome in my world. Negativity knows that it isn't to come anywhere near my existence. Sadness is not an option because I am not the one. See when we allow people, especially the people we love to steal our joy, we open ourselves up to many disasters, disappointments and shortcomings. Don't give anyone the situation of seeing you down and out, sad and unhappy. It only fuels their fire to break you. Smile, let it go, shake it off and keep it moving. Don't allow anyone to halt your greatness. What you allow to exist in your life is totally up to you. No one else, just you! Do yourself a favor and take control of your life, your destiny, your greatness.
The sky is the limit. And if the people you thought would be there with you along your journey fall along by the wayside, wave and press on. The only person who can get in your way is you! Be the best you that you can be. Nobody wants the best for you but yourself regardless of what they say, how much they claim or pretend, you will eventually see their true colors. Nine times out of ten, your true color is either BLUE or BLACK! The color of bruises, with you as their punching bag. Don't give them the satisfaction. I'm done now. If anyone wanna leave a comment, feel free. Your words are always welcome. Thanks for listening. Until next time, Be inspired! Be encouraged! Be you!
And instead of saying "FML" say "FmL" Fix My Life, Focus My Life, Fulfill My Life!
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Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Some people believe that actions speak louder than words but I think that words are more powerful. Be careful what you say and how you say it. Words can cut deep! And more often than not, they can be forgiven but not forgotten. For example, you can give someone a hug and have no feelings or like for that person at all. But if you hug someone and just whisper, hey, miss you, good to see you, or something like that or simply squeeze lightly, it is understood. I hear many people say what's understood doesn't have to be explained, so make it known with words and then expressions. No one is left in the cold or trying to figure out where things stand between you. Life goes on more abundantly.
Do something nice or special for someone today. It will open up endless possibilities to your relationship. And until next time, Be inspired! Be encouraged! Be YOU!
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Monday, November 14, 2011
Anyway, allow me to get to the point of this post.
Why is it that when men get sick, they act like kids?
Now, I don't usually get too sick but I do have good and bad days, were I don't feel my best. I am a mother, so I really cannot afford to be sick, down and out. My two yr. won't allow it. My daughter, who is almost fifteen, will hold things down for me if I'm just now able to do anything, but a toddler and a teenager do not have many things in common. Sue me for waiting so long, but they are my babies. I love my children.
But seriously, men if you are reading, and yes fellas, I am calling you all out. If you get sick or should I just say "I don't feel good" or simply what women call "want some attention" just say so. We cannot read your mind nor do we want to or know what's wrong with you unless you share that bit of information. I am only going to ask twice and if you don't say what needs to be said, then so be it. My husband probably think I'm a heartless bitch, but I have never been the type of girl to just ask, ask, and ask and never get an answer. Not gonna happen. Plus, if you sick, sit ya ass down somewhere. Don't be trying to clean up or go to the store, like you doing me a favor. Trust me! If I'm sick, I don't be doing any of that that day!
Take some medicine. Why suffer through something when there is something that can help? I don't get it. I don't like taking medicine but if I need it, you can in certain that I will be setting that to the side and get something to help me feel better. Go to the doctor! That's what they're here for. Don't think that your wife/girlfriend or whoever will know what's wrong and diagnose you. Pouting and acting like a complete asshole, like somebody done stole your damn bike and Jesus is riding on it, won't get you nothing but left alone!
Now, correct me if I'm wrong, please. I am open to comments, suggestions and any positive advice regarding this matter. I have tough-skin and don't get offended quickly. For those who know me, it takes a lot to upset me but the few things that do, are not taken lightly. I strive to be a better me everyday, so I can handle it.
Thanks for allowing me the chance to vent or share in my randomness. I write when I'm happy, sad, upset and everything in between. It cleanses me. It gives me a chance to express myself without saying something I'll regret, which isn't too often. I life full of regrets is just sad, boring and a trip down the road of bitterness and desperation. Don't let life consume you. Don't take yourself too seriously. Have fun! Learn something new every day.
Today, I learned that, the longer you know someone, the more you will find out their true colors. So, be who you are. Do what you do but don't expect the people who have always been there to stick around when you do or say something that hurts them or decide to take them for granted. Remember, everything has an expiration date, you are no exception!
I know that I have gotten a bit out subject, but this is a random thought post month for my blog and it just happened this way. What can I say? I should have just became that Therapist that I planned to be when I attended college, and then I could be getting compensated for my words of wisdom. LOL :) just kidding! (not really)
You guys be safe, have a great evening and as the holiday season approaches, remember to give thanks for the people and things in our lives who matter most. Know that Christmas isn't about expensive gifts, but something much more profound and special than words can describe. Be inspired! Be encouraged! Be you!
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Wednesday, November 9, 2011
A poem: Keke Chanel
Written: 3:04 pm 11/09/11
The joy that once captured her eyes
Is hidden behind sadness
Fake smiles to appease everyone
Only she fools herself
Her heart feels heavy...lonely
Beating rhythms of melancholy
Numbing to her core
Pain laughs in her face
Poking fun at her soul
Her spirit shakes nervously afraid
Of becoming broken
Mood swings are her comfort zone
Giving truth to her wavering existence
No one listens, looks or seems to care
No one notices the tears stinging the
Backs of her eyes
She ponders each day whether or not she
Should give up, run away,
Nothing can be any worse
But yet she stops, she smiles again
Realizing that the most important person
Who cares, had never abandoned her
Is always watching over her smile
Looking at the beauty in her eyes
Peace in her heart, her unbroken foundation
Giving her reason to remain strong, to endure
To exist, to trust, to live, to press on
She holds her head up high
Smiling at herself because the girl she sees is
Just an image in the mirror frozen in time
Not a reflection of her at all
She smiles bigger, winks, turns and walk away
Feeling uplifted, inspired, determined to carry on
She is the girl who begs to differ
Her passion is not lost
She is not broken
She is not lost
She is not worried of what's to come
She holds the key to get own destiny
She stands taller, sticks her chest out
The key to her destiny
The beat to her courageous spirit
The link in the chain that holds her life
Together will never break unless she chooses
To get in her own way, but the words that
Escaped her lips simply speak "NOT TODAY"
She smiles and thinks,
"I am somebody, God made me in His image
I will win victory over the enemy, so bring
It on, I am ready!!!"
Monday, November 7, 2011
We never know what people face each day. How they strive to be perfect, stay beautiful or talented. At the end of the day, they are human just as we are. True, the attention of the spotlight is fulfilling but at what cost? It saddens me to know that he was broken. Imagine not really having a childhood, able to play outside with friends, attend parties, to go school or attend your high school prom. Yeah, we put people on pedestals but when they fall off, not exceeding our expectations, we simply throw them away.
What happened to love thy neighbor? What happened to offering a helping hand? No one is perfect, and the ones who appear that way, aren't. It's only a persona. Why don't we focus more on helping each other. Stop putting our mouths on each other, especially when you are all screwed up yourself. Take passion in treating each other, as you would want/expect others to treat you. Find pleasure in saying to your children or grandchildren someday that you helped make the world a better place. The Golden Rule didn't go anywhere, we abandoned it! We stopped thinking "united we stand, divided we fall", placing self before any and everything else.
You don't have to be rich or poor, white, black, brown, gay or straight. We are all one race, the human race. Start now by making a difference! Smile at someone. You don't know just how powerful a small gesture like that can help someone make it to another hour, minute or second. Do it willingly. Do it because you want to help someone make it, you want to make an impact in the American Dream. Don't do it and brag or constanly talk about it. What's the point?
The world would become a better place. People would smile more, get along better and work harder to fulfill their destiny. We all have what it takes to determine the outcome of our lives. We have all been blessed with amazing gifts. Don't allow your gift to go overlooked because you wanted to have the same life or gift as someone else. We are all special, perfect in our own rite, don't ever let anyone tell you differently. You hold the key to unlock your future. Don't settle by trying to be someone or something that you weren't destined to be. Dream big, fight to achieve it, and when you do, reach back and help someone else!
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Let me first give the definition of intimacy according to Webster: the state of being intimate, a close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. A close association with or detailed knowledge or deep understanding of a place, subject, period of history, etc. an act of expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection, or the like.
Well, the list goes on and one, but the one definition that will forever be embedded in my mind is the one my brother gave. He simply stated that being intimate is “being in to me”. It’s impossible to become intimate with someone who isn’t into you, which in turns just equals SEX. Kudos, bruh, nice job! Do we really get to know someone before jumping into the sack? When after a few weeks, they don’t text, call or seem interested, we feel like shit! We blame or fault ourselves, thinking that something is wrong with us. This can lead to low self-esteem, bitterness, promiscuity and not really knowing our self-worth. I think it is crucial to at least know someone’s last name, parents names, likes and dislikes, interests, and at least five of his/her goals, before giving them your physical treasure. Hell, make them work for it! Most women don’t demand respect or make men work for their special jewel and vice versa.
Webster states that it is: the instinct or attraction drawing one sex toward another, or its manifestation in life and conduct, to arouse sexually, to increase the appeal of, to make more interesting, attractive or exciting, and to engage in sexual intercourse.
My definition of sex: knocking the boots, screwing, humping like rabbits, giving yourself do someone just because you listen to your genitals instead of your heart. My list can go far and beyond but I will stop now before things out of hand. LOL Ya'll know where I'm going with this anyway! Moving right along.