My Hittas…

Hittas, a term stemmed from a popular song playing in heavy rotation on the radio. The intended word was not acceptable according to popular opinion in society given all the “politically incorrect” situations taking flight, so a creative alternative was fashioned. This phrase can be heard in any neighborhood around the country. It makes us look closely at the people in our circle.

Friendships are amazing, especially when you have people who are always there for you even when you least expect it. My Hittas a term used to call these people. Our ride or die people; our get-mad-with-someone-for-pissing-you-off people. My Hittas…people who have our backs without being asked, and never under any circumstance, turn on us or put us down.

Having a great circle of associates is one thing but having a great circle of friends is something profound, something to be treasured, a special gift to be cherished forever and not taken lightly. People are so quick to use the word “friend” nowadays that this generation of young people truly don’t know what a true friend is or should be. My definition of Friend/Hitta is this: my round, my dawg, my ace; one who is always present but not always in my presence; someone who is loyal, compassionate, crazy as hell if need be; someone who loves and fears God; someone who loves themselves; someone who tells you the truth even if it hurts.

Take a good look at the people you use the term Friend/Hitta with. Are they truly that? Can you count on them? Do they have your best interest at heart? If you need them, will they be there? Have they been by your side during the milestones in your life? These questions should all be “yes” if you indeed have a true Friend/Hitta in your life. If you have more “no’s” than “yes’s” you should reevaluate your relationship with these people. If you are always the one reaching out, going above and beyond to be a part of their lives and always being left with the short end of the stick, you don’t need those kinds of people in your circle. You deserve more!

It’s funny that while I was writing this post, one of my best friends sent me a text message. Even though we don’t talk daily or see each other too much, she always knows just when I need a great laugh. We went on and on talking and laughing, and it warmed my heart knowing that we don’t have to be under each other 24/7, but will always remain “friends”. She is one of my Hittas…

I have another friend whom I hadn’t talked to or seen for months, but when we did see each other we picked right back up like not a day had gone by. She knows that I am always here for her and I know she is always here for me. She is one of my Hittas…

I have a friend who I met a few years ago through my brother that can get inside my head and know what I’m thinking before I do. We often say or type the same things at the same time, and just laugh about it. I know that she is sent from God because of the way our friendship has been. Our twin powers always activate! She is one of my Hittas…

And then there is that friend who lives far away. We call or text, or just feel each other in times of need. She is silly and so am I. She prays with me or for me. “Bow your bighead,” she says. It is a beautiful thing when you have friends who pray. This helps me sleep better at night knowing that I have people lifting my name up in prayer. She is one of my Hittas…

I can go on and on about my Hittas, but we would be here all day. I am truly blessed to have amazing people in my life that I can call “Friend”. God was definitely looking out for me when he allowed us all to cross paths. I am eternally grateful! And to have some of those people with the same blood running through their veins the same as mine, to get to call them family, sister, cousin; keeps my heart smiling!

Who are your Hittas? Cherish them and never allow life to push or pull you away from each other. We all need somebody. It’s up to us whether we accept BS or bask in blissfulness with each relationship we obtain. You have the final say on who you allow in your circle. The ones who remain should reflect us in some way. There is a saying that goes “the people you hang around are a reflection of who we are.” I truly believe that. Don’t allow others to change your character or question your integrity. It’s so not worth it in the end…

Until next time, Be Inspired, be encouraged & be YOU!!!

Purple Hugs & Kisses,

Keke Chanel