Sunday, July 29, 2012

"STICKS AND STONES..."


                     WARNING!!! PROCEED WITH CAUTION!!! ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK!!!



MY BLOG IS OPEN TO EVERYONE. I DO NOT DISCRIMINATE IN WHO READS OR VIEW WHAT I HAVE TO SAY. IN FACT, THE MORE THE MERRIER, BUT I WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR THAT I AM A CHRISTIAN, A BELIEVER, A CHILD OF GOD, WHO ISN’T AFRAID TO TELL THE WORLD OF THAT FACT. YES, I WRITE AND GOD’S GREATNESS IS SHOWCASED IN MANY OF MY POSTS. I ALSO WRITE EROTICA, YES, YOU HEARD ME. I DON’T SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THE PEOPLE OF GOD, SPEAKING ABOUT SEX IF DONE IN A TASTEFUL MANNER OR EVEN IF IT IS RAW AND UNCUT. (WE ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE IN OUR FLESH, RIGHT!!!) SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT COMFORTABLE IN SHARING THEIR WANTS, NEEDS AND DESIRES WITH HIS/HER PARTNER, AND IF THEY READ STORIES ABOUT THOSE SAID WANTS, NEEDS AND DESIRES, THEN MAYBE THEY WILL BECOME COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO SAY OR SIMPLY EXPLORE THOSE THINGS WITH THEIR PARTNER. I HAVE HEARD MANY COMMENTS OF THAT FACT AFTER I WROTE ABOUT A PARTICULAR TOPIC VIA ONE OF MY STORIES, OR SEXUAL ESPAPADES. MOST PEOPLE DON’T EVEN KNOW THAT THE SUN IS A STAR, LESS KNOWN THE WAY TO FULLY ACHIEVE SEXUAL SATISFACTION! HEY, I’M JUST SAYING. BUT, I WILL SAY AS I HAVE SAID MANY TIMES BEFORE, “I AM NO EXPERT AND I DON’T PROFESS TO BE, BUT I DO KNOW HOW TO WRITE A GREAT STORY ABOUT PASSION AND PLEASURE.”

I HAVE VERY THICK SKIN YOU GUYS. I GREW UP IN A HOUSE, WITH A MOTHER NAMED BETTY JEAN AND SHE STILL “KEEPS IT REAL” “TELL IT LIKE IT IS” OR AS MOST OF THE PEOPLE WHO PERSONALLY KNOW OUR FAMILY SAY “MZ. BETTY DON'T PLAY” SO I DON’T TAKE OFFENSE TO RUDE COMMENTS. SOMEONE IS ALWAYS GOING ON JUDGE, CRITICIZE OR “HATE” ON SOMEONE FOR STEPPING OUT, NOT BEING AFRAID TO JUST SPEAK ON WHAT THEY DESIRE AND/OR PASSIONATE ABOUT. WHO SAID BEING A CHRISTIAN IN BEING DEAD???? WHO SAID WE HAVE TO LIVE BORING, BE CONFINED OR LIMITED TO THE THINGS IN LIFE? EVERYTHING THAT GOD MADE IS GOOD…IT IS PEOPLE WHO TURN OR MAKE THOSE THINGS BAD BECAUSE OF LIVING “OF THE WORLD” INSTEAD OF FOR JESUS! WELL, I’LL BE THE FIRST TO SAY, I LOVE GOD, I LOVE BEING A CHRISTIAN AND I LOVE WRITING ABOUT VARIOUS TOPICS. IF ANYONE FINDS THEM OFFENSIVE, I APOLOGIZE, BUT I WON’T STOP WRITING ABOUT WHAT I WANT TO WRITE ABOUT OR TOPICS I AM ASKED TO TALK ABOUT FROM MY READERS. IF I CAN BE A BLESSING TO SOMEONE ELSE WHETHER A FRIENDSHIP, RELATIONSHIP, MARRIAGE, OR ANY OTHER PERSON, THEN THAT IS WHAT I WILL DO. GOD HAS GIVEN ME A GIFT AND I WILL USE IT UNTIL I CAN NO LONGER. DON’T ALLOW ANYONE TO HINDER OR KEEP YOU FROM DOING, SAYING, OR LIVING THE WAY YOU ARE OR WANT TO. IF IT IS LINED UP ACCORDING TO THE WORD OF GOD, THEN DON’T BE ASHAMED OR FEEL GUILTY OF THAT. THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN STAND IN YOUR WAY OF GREATNESS/HAPPINESS IS “YOU”…GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY. STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT SOMEONE ELSE IS DOING AND DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF.  REMEMBER THAT YOUR LIFE IS JUST THAT, AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE’S. AND IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!SO, UNTIL NEXT TIME, BE INSPIRED, BE ENCOURAGED, BE BLESSED AND BE YOU!!!!

SMOOCHES,
KEKE CHANEL


DON’T FORGET TO CHECK OUT MY WEBSITE www.Kekechanel.net
Follow me on twitter: @keke_chanel.com
Find me on Facebook: KekeChanel2012

Friday, July 20, 2012

"A Night At the Movies..."

Sadness in America!!!!



Today, our nation heard some very disturbing news. Headlines all over the world reads “12 Dead, 59 wounded in Colorado” Has this world gotten so corrupt, wicked, and evil that we cannot even go enjoy a movie with our families, friends and other loved ones? I cannot begin to imagine what those innocent people were feeling in that moment. Sitting there watching their favorite superhero emerge in Gotham City, and then suddenly this excruciating aroma clouds them, leaving them helpless, gasping for their next breath. The sound of gunshots becoming the soundtrack, while they try to shelter themselves from the sudden battle they didn’t even know they had become a part of. Seeing bodies drop, hearing the chilling screams of children, or just seeing someone sitting next to them take a bullet to the chest. This is something we see in movies or read in books, but not in reality. Some say we shouldn’t be shocked or surprised but I beg to differ. Movie night, really! The only question we are left to ask ourselves is, why?

Did an eerie feeling come over the people occupying that particular theater just minutes before? Where there warning signs before purchasing their tickets? It is said that before something bad happens, we are usually given signs or feelings of such. It doesn’t really matter now because this tragic event has occurred. Innocent people have still lost their lives or are still fighting to survive. And the ones who survived are left scarred for life.

What was going on in the sick mind of this individual? How did he come to the conclusion to do something so heartless? Will the truth ever be revealed? What happens next? How do the families of the victims pick up the pieces and move on with their lives? There are so many questions to ponder.

A 24 year old young man ended 12 lives, wounded 59 and plagued the lives of so many others in just a blink of an eye. Will true justice be served for our fellow American people? The sad fact is that he too is an American, not that it would make any difference if he was from another country. This is still wrong on so many levels! Is hatred this much in control of the people who walk among us each day? Do we interact with them, or pass them by on our way home? Do our children attend school with them? Are they guests in our homes, having dinner parties, people we call “friends”?

Did his parents see or hear of anything that could have avoided such massacre? When the police spoke with the mother she appeared to know something or not be surprised that it was her son who committed the devious act of crime. Should she be held accountable if she did in fact know something, along with her son? It isn’t wise to condone our children in wrong doing, EVER!!! The excuse of being too afraid to go to the proper authorities is simply unacceptable…people are dead!

Sure, we as parents want the best for our children and would do anything to protect them, but there are things were we should draw a line. Hurting others shouldn’t be acceptable. Plotting to do harm to others shouldn’t be a thought, least known a factor in this society.  There are many curve balls in life as it is, wouldn’t you agree!

My heart is heavy right now. Something so callus, hateful and demonic, has caused more chaos to our generation. Do we even have a future that’s meant to be bright? I just want to take a few minutes to give a moment of silence for all the victims…Amen!


*bows head*

To the families involved, I pray your strength, courage and will to get through this horrible time. I know this is hard, and I cannot possibly feel what you are feeling, but know that you have many people lifting you all up in prayer. It will get better! Things of such magnitude should not take place…Know that weeping may endure for a night but joy will come again!

Feel free to voice your thoughts on this topic. Leave your comments below. This is definitely something we should discuss. Until next time, be inspired, be encouraged, be safe and be blessed! We are still ONE NATION UNDER GOD…

Smooches,
Keke Chanel




Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Can keeping troubling aspects a secret in relationships lead to irreconcilable differences?




I received a question a few days ago about this particular topic and I wanted to speak about it and also get your thoughts. I have written several posts about relationships on my blog that have been very helpful and informative to others, according to the comments and emails I have received on those topics. The posts are still linked, so feel free to go check them out. I use this site as a chance to provide positive information that I have encountered through my life’s journey, or saw others go through and yet survive. We will all go through something traumatic at some point in time, right. I feel that we are all vessels that can help others along the way. Why sit on information that can help someone else? So, with that being said, it’s move on. I hope that this is helpful to the friend who asked, as well as insightful to the rest of you.

We all have been in or are currently in relationships that have been tainted due to not communicating about the things that plaque us. Not voicing one’s concern about different aspects or factors, problems, concerns or what have you, will eventually rip a relationship to shreds. I feel that it is essential to say whatever it may be, whether good or bad, in maintaining positive relationships. But in a way that is compassionate, not harsh or ugly to make someone feel bad. It doesn’t matter what type of relationship, without speaking on the issues at hand, the relationship is doomed from the beginning. Just be yourself! Don’t put on a persona to please others. Don’t conform to fit in. Don’t settle when you deserve much more. And most importantly, don’t just allow others to walk all over you and think that it is acceptable. (In the words of my late B.I.L—“Negative Chief” Rest in Peace Jean Antonio, we love and miss you much!)

Without letting the other person/persons involved know what is on your mind or in your heart nothing good comes of the relationship. There are too many one-sided relationships as it is today. There is no need to keep the cycle going. If we speak in love, with compassion, there is nothing too hard to work through. Friendships will get better. Relationships will have positive outcomes and the divorce rate in our country will decrease instead of increase so rapidly.

If we continue to keep things bottled up inside, we will become bitter, resentful, eventually spinning a web of hatred toward the people we love most. This isn’t the way relationships should be. Life is too short and once someone is gone, it’s too late to say or do all the things you should have or wanted to do. I don’t have all the answers, but if the question is asked, I will do all within my knowledge of the subject to give the best advice that I can. Feel free to leave your comments. All of your thoughts are appreciated and not taken lightly.

Communicate, communicate, and communicate!!! This is the best advice that I can give because I am a living witness that it is effective. Listen, listen, and listen!!! This is the second most important factor in maintaining a strong and lasting relationship because when you listen, I mean truly listen you hear all that is being said. Don’t judge, put down on, or speak harshly to others. Plus, no one wants to be around a person who does that less known listen to what they have to say. That doesn’t do anything but make matters worse and cause an even bigger riff between all involved. Lastly, say what’s bothering you. If we are with someone who doesn’t listen, hear or respect what we have to say, then we should reevaluate the relationship and make the best decision for ourselves. If we have friendships that cause more problems than what they are worth, cut those individuals out of your life. As I always say, not everyone is intended to travel the path that God has prepared for you. People will come and go from your life and the ones who are truly meant to be there, will be!

Yeah, we will lose great people on our journey and that’s okay. They may have been placed in your path and vice versa for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Either way, you will know the difference. It will be revealed in time. But if you do not want the best for yourself, how can you expect that someone else will? Think about that for a minute…if you don’t have your best interest at heart, no one is going to. Love yourself more to want more for YOU! Trust me, it is okay.

So in the end the answer to the question is a simple “Yes”!  Keeping things that trouble you in relationships to yourself will cause them to shatter. Don’t set yourself up for this kind of pain, heartache and disappointment because time is something we cannot get back! Until next time, be encouraged, be inspired and be YOU!!!

Smooches,
Keke Chanel