Who’s In Your Circle???

I believe that the people we have in our lives play a huge role in how successful or unsuccessful we are. Think about it! People, who surround themselves with positive, hardworking, determined, and open-minded people, will most likely become the leaders, go-getters, makers and shakers of our society. They eventually become the CEO’s, World Leaders, Media Moguls, and Highest Paid Entertainers in the world.  People, who have a passion for not just existing but living, are least likely to get involved, focus or care about negative aspects of life and that of other people. Sure they are concerned when it is a friend or family member, but it doesn’t affect their outlook on life by getting too wrapped up in the situation. Plus, some people don’t want help but are simply attention seekers. For example, have you ever known anyone who is always complaining about being sick but won’t go to the damn doctor! Someone who is always broke, but won’t get a job! Yeah, these are people I refer to as attention seekers because once the attention in focused upon them, they suddenly feel better or have money to lend you. These types of people truly make my ass itch!!!

It’s really simple if you ask me, and if you didn’t ask I’ll tell you anyway. Take a recovering addict for example. It would be suicide to get a job working at a liquor store if you are a recovering alcoholic or become friends with someone who lives at a crack house if you were addicted to crack. We have to use common sense and better judgment when letting anyone who is nice to us into our circle. People have hidden agendas and will pretend to be in your corner until there is a sign of success then they will step on your back trying to get ahead of you, or even pray against your blessings. It’s sad that it’s more often times than not, the people closest to us because we just allowed them to enter our world without doing a “why are you trying to be a part of my circle” check. Don’t be so in need of people for validation or acceptance that you just open yourself up to a world of negativity! They will consume and suffocate the life right out of you.

Being in good company can keep our minds on the goals and aspirations we have set for ourselves in order to achieve them, as well as surpass them in the future. Positive don’t usually tend to get washed up in gossip or nonsense like Miley Cyrus twerking on national television. *Like I said to a friend, she is young and doing just what it takes to sell albums. If she doesn’t see anything wrong about her behavior, who am I to criticize her. She isn’t the first and won’t be the last to make “bad decisions” in her youth. I know I have made plenty, But GOD!!! Now back to a regularly scheduled program…lol* Instead we focus on what drives us, the things that we are passionate about. Positive people don’t care about such things that don’t involve us because our minds are constantly turning with new ideas to help make our future brighter than yesterday.

It’s not about the fortune or fame, although it isn’t disregarded, I think it’s more about how we contribute and impact our society in a positive way; leaving a legacy that we will be proud of when we are no longer here. Something that our children and grandchildren can benefit from, so that their lives are better than the generation before them; it becomes a positive cycle that flows from generation to generation. Look at Johnson & Johnson, Wal-Mart or Hilton, the people who started these companies didn’t always hear “yes” but they weren’t content in dwelling on the word “no”. It was hard and I know that the people who they probably started their journey with many of them couldn’t endure the crawl before the walk. *I bet they are still kicking their ass from the grave, thinking about how their life and the lives of their loved one could have been different. But hey, you win some and you lose some. It’s up to us whether we stand or fall. Rome wasn’t built in a day and if you cannot handle to small setbacks, you won’t be able to handle the big ones either.* But the people who didn’t give up, lose hope or succumb to the negativity, are smiling their asses off. Because of their positive attitude, positive circle and positive thinking, now their families and the people who helped them make their dreams become a reality won’t ever have to worry about being secure in their futures. Having a positive circle keeps things in perspective. Positive people don’t expect anything in return accept “paying it forward” to help someone else grow. We see the same qualities in each other which push us harder to leading a healthy and happy life.

Negative energy will suck the life right out of you, especially if you are not strong enough to endure the many trials that come along with life. Trust me when I tell you, they will come and more rapidly when you are on the right path, in the right mindset, and surrounded by the right people. Negativity is seriously, a waste of time! And we all know that time is something we cannot get back. So who’s in your circle??? I challenge you to evaluate your life; each area of it. The people, who are always asking, taking, waiting, expecting and never giving anything of themselves don’t need to be in your circle. The places and things that only bring you misery, grief or ten steps back, shouldn’t be a part of your destination. You may lose a few people along the way but no everyone is to walk with you on your journey. It’s okay because God will give you more than you can fathom when you allow Him to lead your path. Think about it!!!

Until next time, be inspired, be encouraged and be you!!!

Purple Hugs & Kisses,

Keke Chanel